If we would be miraculously given a transcript of our sub-conscious thoughts, we would be shocked by the amount of shadow-boxing happening, trying to figure out what other people think of us, and then defending our position against what we think they think of us - shadow boxing. We can take off the gloves. We needn’t know. We can’t know. And engagement of the mind in this activity is brutal.
It gets in the way of being who you’d have them think you are, anyway!
All we can do is begin to become aware of our sub-conscious thoughts.
Notice them, like children wrestling.
When an adult enters the room, they stop.
So be of witness. A compassionate and loving parent.